Woman’s Words Wednesday – Hilarious, Honest, Happily Single, Holly

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“If there’s one thing that’s sadder than being single, it’s settling. And I refuse to do it.”

I first met Holly Ann Phillips when I was working at Abercrombie & Fitch and the abercrombie kids store in the Mall of Louisiana.

This had to be circa 2006/7. “Post Katrina”, as the time after August 2005 has been dubbed by NOLA peeps, I took a managerial job with the “model-y” clothing store in Shreveport. I had never really been a collar-popping, layer-centric type who wore the brand, but I was stuck in North LA because my City was flooded, I needed a J.O.B. STAT, and you had to have a college Degree to be a manager at A&F.

Yes I did it for the salary (teeny, tiny salary) and health insurance, but I also knew, if I was going to have a job on my resume that said “Manager” and was my first after graduating, I was going to make the most of it and excel, no matter the industry or location.

I became very good at managing, training, and styling the store which involved all the correct folding, placement and presentation of the merchandise, and dressing of the forms (mannequins without limbs), so much so that when there was a fire in the back of the Baton Rouge location, I was sent to help re-do the store. Impressed by the job I did the first go round, I was sent again one holiday season to help failing standards and quitting managers. That’s when I met one of my all-time favorite gingers!

Holly worked in the kids’ store and was as fiery and energetic as her hair would suggest. She was easy to talk to, spunky, good at her job and pleasant to be around. Holly and I would talk a lot about relationships and it surprises me in no way that she has become a professional writer and blogs about her relationship life.

At that time in my life I had made friends with a guy who was studying to be a brain surgeon. We had met and hung out in Shreveport, so when he went back to his hometown in B.R., and I found myself working a few weeks stint at the Abercrombie locations, we decided to hangout again. Mc-Very-Attractive would visit the mall on occasion and bring me treats like cookies. Holly and I would talk about him being the kind of guy who would make a good catch: handsome, great job, did nice things.

The good Doctor and I did not end up together, though we remain caring friends, and he is now married with children…

I tell this story to introduce my single sister Holly, but also to give a glimpse of just one of the many wonderful men who have come, and gone, in my life as I remain single. And over 30. And completely OK WITH IT!

I give this Wednesday’s Woman Words to the lovely Ms. Holly Ann Phillips because her blog today said a million things I have BEEN thinking and saying to people for a WHILE now. I love the life I have lead, the adventures I have had, the men I have loved, and hated, and wished for, and screamed about, and remain dedicated to a friendship with, and I wouldn’t trade it for a second of being settled because I settled.

Here’s  Holly to more pointedly and wittily explain:

 “I don’t think that’s a question I can answer,” I told her. “What if I don’t find someone?”

I’m single, stop asking why.

on The Bitter Lemon by Holly Ann Phillips

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The pictures were from the trip to Cancun I just returned from…I felt inspired by Holly’s post. How did Holly’s post make you feel readers? I’m highly interested. I’m sure she is too so comment here and leave her some feedback.

To my single readers, in the face of negativity or confusion from the coupled-crowd, brush it off and keep doing YOU! Celebrate your

Sexy Single Self

Afar and Away Alicia: A Letter to my Readers

Dearest Readers,

Writing you to say Hey! and sorry for going away without leaving you a note on the kitchen table…

The past few months have been stuffed with travel and celebrations. Appropriate to this time in my life, my world and weekends are filled with Weddings and Babies and celebrations of said nuptials and offspring. Well, my social world anyway. No my sweet readers, I did not secretly get married or pregnant in my absence 🙂

An informational on blogging I once read said to never apologize for lapses in one’s posting; but how can I not? As bloggers we ask our readers to validate our words with their time and honor our thoughts with relevance by considering them. So I thank every reader who has been with me so far and I thank each reader who will join me here.

I continued reading posts of blogs that I enjoy following, I just did not find the time I needed to put my own thoughts down. Likewise I found the “guidelines”  I had placed on myself for writing the blog had become “restrictions” so that some of the things I was inspired to write about were kept-for-a-later-date instead of flowing out in the moment I was driven to share. I was hindering my own writing and it had to stop.

I have made some changes to the site, deleting pages and adding inspirational spots.

  • Poesy (the art or composition of poetry, not to be confused with posey, a small bouquet of flowers): From a very young age I have enjoyed writing poetry, thoughts, sayings, etc.. My poetry, as poetry often does, comes from vulnerable and private places in my heart and brain, so I have been hesitant to share these words with many people. But, I figure if there was ever a time and place to do it, this would be it.
  • Keen (having or showing eagerness or enthusiasm): I started hearing and using the word Keen when I began dating my first boyfriend-from-abroad. He was a Kiwi and everything was “Fantastic” & “Keen”. The word has become one of my favorites and I want to share some of my favorite things with my readers on this page.

If you’ve stayed with me readers you may notice some changes, but I hope you still enjoy the content. If you’re just joining this alliteration party, I hope you too enjoy the content and come back for more. Comment, share, like, challenge, engage & I will appreciate and respond!

So as they say in our 49th state, the land I called home for one glorious summer,

“North to the Future”

Women’s Words Wednesday – Battling the Breast Bomb

10176194_10203967596003305_5942656178842187111_nIt’s October 1st which means it’s time to Think Pink, Go Pink, Touch our Ta-Tas, Save Second Base…

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Employees of Kenner City Hall Photo: Barry Sprague

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

We started a month long fundraising campaign today at my work; making a giant pink ribbon out of employees, donning our pink shirts and raising almost $2,000 for Making Strides Against Breast Cancer in only one day! It was…well it was inspiring.

 

More inspiring still…the women who were there that were quietly cancer survivors, or relatives of cancer survivors, or friends of cancer survivors. My grandparents and relatives have survived and died of cancers but that’s another time, another post. Today’s words belong to the women who have endured, who have fought and lived, who have believed at the end of hope’s road. This post is their testimony.

 

A few of the favorites I found:

 

When you’re told:

Sheryl Crow

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Dr. Seuss

OK, technically a guy, but a worthwhile message.

When you’re in it: Melissa Ethridge

When wisdom comes from the funniest people and humor from the strangest places:

Christina Applegate Gilda Radner

Your triumphs: Robin Roberts
Olivia Newton John Giuliana Rancic

When it’s your loved ones:

Cynthia Nixon

The only women, and men who can understand the fight with breast cancer, or any cancer, are the ones who have gone through it and the ones who have loved someone who has. There are so many wonderful, inspirational quotes, memes, songs, or speeches that you may read or hear this month and a dozen or more ways to locally donate and volunteer. I suggest starting with finding a breast cancer survivor or supporter and hearing what they have to say. See where that conversation takes you.

And, please dear readers, start this month and

Brush up on Boobies!  

A helpful guide to self breast exams!

Bonus read: Sometimes it’s not a shared fight. Sometimes Breast Cancer creates silent suffering. Read Not Another Tall Blog ‘s poignant post about her mother’s decision to keep her cancer a secret.

Woman’s Words Wednesday – Audrey Hepburn

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Iconic. Enduring. Outspoken. Audrey!

For this second installment of WWW I am sharing the words of a woman who grew from an ingenue to a fashion icon to a humanitarian, Audrey Hepburn. Many of her most famous quotes are clever but thought provoking.

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The first quote to share, a personal favorite, is cheeky and wonderful all at the same time. I’m right there with Hepburn in her love for pink (pink nails are clicking the keys as I type), laughter as a legitimate fitness routine and smooching as a legitimate pastime! The playful quote goes on with words of empowerment and encouragement. It runs the full gambit, just like Hepburn.

 

 

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If Hepburn were alive today I think she would take a #NoMakeup selfie and use this quote on her Instagram feed. She may add the hastag #Eliza to reference one of her most famous roles (and her best in my eyes) in My Fair Lady. Hepburn’s  character  is seen as gorgeous after transforming her image and speech, but in the end it’s her spitfire spirit that wins over the hearts of those around her. It’s her true-self shinning through that makes her the most unforgettable.

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With today’s voyeuristic tendencies towards sharing images online and the difficulties of online and in-person bullying facing them, I believe many young women could benefit from Hepburn’s words.

 

In this quote, Hepburn again references real beauty coming not from the airs we put on, but the grace we put out.

 

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Hepburn did not just talk-the-talk, she also walked-the-walk and used her celebrity to encourage others to do so as well, becoming  a special ambassador to the United Nations UNICEF fund. Through her work, Hepburn aided children in  Latin America and Africa from 1988-1993.

 

As Hepburn’s words inspire us to, live a life full of love; love for yourself, love for others and love for the world beyond your own.

Wishing Women a Wonderful Wednesday!

 

 

 

The cosmopolitan humanitarian born Audrey Kathleen Ruston passed away on January 20, 1993 in Tolochnaz, Switzerland. (Her IMDb bio)

Woman’s Words Wednesday – Lauren Bacall

I had a completely different woman and words planned for this first WWW but with the passing of a lady I’ve heard described as “The greatest dame of the Hollywood Dames”, I felt it only fitting to share the words of the incomparable  Lauren Bacall.

At the young age of 19 she held her first leading role opposite her future first-husband, Humphrey Bogart in To Have and Have Not. They would go on to make several more film noir style movies together, for which her husky voice and stunning features were perfect.

Growing up a “theatre person” I have always been fascinated with the overly dramatized acting and impeccable lighting of  film noir style movies. Bacall’s features may have been captured in black-and-white but her jaw was sharp, her lips were full and her fiery spirit shone out of expertly lit eyes, zoomed in on and framed tightly by the adoring film directors of the 40’s.

 

 

 

This first quote of Bacall’s I fell in love with for its way of challenging us as women. We spend immeasurable amounts of time, money and attention on the appearances of our faces.  (Heck, it’s one of the main topics I will address in this blog.) Bacall’s quote touches on the importance of aging gracefully. The lines on our face are said to be the road map of where we’ve been and how we got to this point in our lives. I love that Bacall praises that and encourages us to as well.

 

 

 

 

 

And because she was such an iconic leading lady of the Golden Age of film, Bacall get two quotes on today’s post. This second quote, a call for us to remember that failure is not loosing, but rather not trying.

 

 

 

So love the face that reflects your journey and the fights you fought to get to this day!

Wishing Women a Wonderful Wednesday!

 

The beauty born Betty Joan Perske passed away yesterday, August 12, 2014 at age 89. (Her IMDb bio)